So, let's talk about gratitude.
One of the recurring themes people return to in dealing with death or illness is that, if nothing else, this experience will make you appreciate the blessings that remain in your life. This is part of the old "cancer made me a better person" mantra. (For a brilliant and hilarious rebuttal to this, see miriam engelberg's book.)
Gratitude is the emotion we feel when someone gives us a gift. It implies a sense of indebtedness, and an understanding that the gift cost something.
Am I grateful to be alive? I think that question, somehow, assumes that I deserve to be dead.
Am I grateful that my cancer was discovered before it metastasized? More times than I like to admit, I wish like hell it had been discovered while it was stage I.
Am I grateful that I got to keep my breast? Frankly, I have mixed feelings.
Am I grateful that there's a better than 50 percent chance I'll get to see my daughter through her adolescence? Hmmmm.....
In other words, when you get right down to it, I'm not that gratful. If this post-cancer life were a Christmas sweater, I'd say it was the wrong color and a few sizes too small.
Tuesday, June 5, 2007
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